Self love is a common word which various things are categorised within. Self love is a term used to support the idea of doing something good for yourself. One might find soothing a simple task such as a walk in the park, while for someone else means partying all night. The idea behind it is to fuel up yourself with positive energy to be able to cope with the stressful life we most live in.
However, lately our society has tagged many self love things as a justification of selfishness. Prioritizing your needs and what you deserve is vital, however, not when it comes at the cost of causing discomfort to others. Especially if you can help it not to happen.
Self love doesn’t justify being selfish or mean. You cannot justify something which leaves others astray or which brings negativity into someone else’s life as self love. We do have responsibility toward other people and we can’t disregard that by doing things for our own gain, without giving explanations or answers of our behaviour. Doing what you want rather than what you have responsibility to do isn’t practicing self love. Do not use this powerful word to excuse selfish behaviour. You are simply choosing to do what you want without worrying about how much hurt it will cause. Especially if you know what the consequences of your actions will be.
Giving priority to yourself is important and healthy. Taking decisions which let you live a happy life are important too, thus this means you do so in a reasonable way.
If you need to cut off a relationship, be clear about it, keep up with your decisions and give answers for your actions. Even if your answers may cause anger to the other person, it is still better than letting someone waiting for a conclusive answer. If you feel that certain things are bothering you, talk about it, state what your actions will be if nothing is improved, but ghosting others or simple show up not being your true self is not acceptable.
When asked why you are acting in a certain way, be truthful, no matter what the outcome will be. The other end deserves the truth and you deserve the peace of mind that you are offering a transparent connection without lies or half truths.
Self love is such an important and amazing thing, a person who practices the real self love will surely not be able to act selfishly towards others.
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